DAY # 30


Hiya from my favorite restaurant in Aspen.. Bosq which interestingly enough also is where I have my biggest mindful eating struggles.

Hiya from my favorite restaurant in Aspen.. Bosq which interestingly enough also is where I have my biggest mindful eating struggles.

Ok MIT, we’re on hitting repeat on your Most Challenging Mindful Eating skill.

For some peeps it’s putting the fork down between bites, chewing bites well, slowing down at meal times, deleting nasty self-talk {and replacing with kindness + appreciation}. We ALL have our challenges so please PULEEZE don’t think that I don’t struggle. Anyone who’s been sucked into diet culture behaviors, habits, thoughts and patterns will have to reframe a lot of diet beliefs.

What a privilege for us to struggle with food and our body when we are riddled with a crazy world with war-torn nations, poverty, cancer, greed, and other issues that are crippling. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not belittling our own suffering, but when you take a step back and see the bigger picture, you might realize that there are a lot worse things to be grappling with.

I digressed, let me get back on track.

The picture above is from favorite Aspen restaurant called Bosq. I have fond memories of creative meals with family members here. This is such a different mindset from diet days gone by, when dining out caused a significant amount of anxiety, planning, and advanced prep. My gawd, I don’t know why I never knew there was another way to live but ultimately, my fear was that if I ate out – had a rich meal with alcohol, I would absolutely gain weight.

My thought about it now is this… who cares. I realized during this last holiday trip that I can eat two, maybe three rich dinners out before my body wants a break. That was so key to observe because I will enjoy a couple meals out, then our third night out perhaps have something lighter that doesn’t feel so heavy on my system. Do you see how different that is, to allow how you feel to guide your food decisions rather than the fear-based one of “I have to do this otherwise I’ll gain weight!”

It’s crucial that you understand the mental distinction.

When I dieted – I lost and gained weight ALL THE TIME. I would lose 5 pounds then gain 10. I would lose 2 pounds then gain 3. Clients say the exact same thing. My weight was all over the place and that made my psycho crazy. I craved consistency but dieting, by it’s very restrictive nature, will cause your eating behaviors and subsequently your weight to bounce all over the place.

So during your mindful & intuitive eating journey it’s likely that just like yo-yo dieting, your weight is likely going to fluctuate. And that doesn’t mean anything because we REALLY have to shift away from putting so much focus on our weight while you heal your relationship with food for a very big reason.

If you focus on weighing yourself and “trying to understand what foods make me lose weight” then you will disconnect from your internal belly wisdom. Because instead of tuning in to physically assess the foods + amounts that feel GOOD in YOUR body, you will be focusing on diet culture: will this food make me gain or lose weight.

You have to be willing to let go of that metric and start to trust that your body will know how to nourish itself.

But back to Bosq and why I’m getting long winded with this story. One of my biggest struggles when dining out is overeating. It’s not because I don’t dine out, it’s because I tend to order too much food and the portion sizes are typically outrageous, let’s be honest.

I love to try new creative dishes because it inspires me to remake something similar at home. BUT I HATE food waste with a passion. I’ve never been one of those people who can leave half a plate of food unless, unless the food is horrible. The first and last time I was on a cruise we had the captains dinner – I was hungry, filled up on really good bread, salty butter and red wine. When the huge fish entree arrived, I took one bite, and decided it was a big heck no.

Have you ever ordered something out and it’s just way too disappointing to eat? It’s the worst. I won’t eat the food if it sucks. But since we paid for our meals with the package, I didn’t feel bad about not eating it (but I did feel bad that a fish died and no one ate it – normally I’d pack it up and give it to Kingston but he wasn’t in Alaska!).

So that’s great when the food is bad, but MY struggle was learning when to say when if the food is amazing.

The more you practice mindful eating during your day to day, the more you’ll be able to tune in when you dine out. And what has helped me is tuning in and making a conscious decision to eat more than usual because the food is really good and I don’t want to stop eating. THAT is still mindful eating! Because you intentionally say yes, I want to eat this and I know there is a possibility that I will feel very full or stuffed or uncomfortable afterwards, but it’s worth that discomfort.

That is a decision. And that is 100% okay.

What will happen is that you will be able to tune into your amazingly skilled body, and determine when you are done with your meal. Remember the real goal of eating is so that you feel better after the meal than you did before the meal. And if you are hungry before the meal (don’t feel good) and then you eat and you are stuffed or sick after the meal (don’t feel good), then you missed the mark somewhere.

The reason we eat is not so that we feel worse, it should make is feel better.

So if you feel worse after you eat, that’s a perfect opportunity to tune in, make adjustments (after the fact if you can’t do it during the meals), and chalk it up to valuable personal learning experience.

Look, mindful + intuitive eating take intention, effort, and daily-ish practice. If you want to fast track anything and see results, you will want to make an effort to practice it daily. If you don’t that’s fine too. Just don’t make it an all or nothing situation like dieting. What I mean by that is you either practice mindful eating each day or you don’t. That never gets you anywhere.

Your goal today is to objectively observe your challenging area(s) of eating and work on the skill that you struggle with. Learn from it, grow from it. Pat yourself on the back for showing up because I’m proud of you for doing the work!